We all know how much work, money and energy goes into the planning of a wedding ceremony. Shouldn't we give at least a portion of that commitment to preparing for the marriage? Especially when we read about how much at risk couples are for problems that can lead to distress and even separation in those early years. By seeing a marriage counselor before your marriage begins, you can learn where your own weak spots might be and gain some resources and skills for overcoming those issues that can threaten your love. Although we recommend four sessions for the premarital counseling process, some couples need additional time to work on the more complicated issues, particularly for blended families. And, you may want to share your plans for getting premarital counseling with your family and friends. Perhaps someone will want to give you this important gift for yourselves!